An Ex Male Model Explains: Why Fame is Not For Me
View image | gettyimages.com His rock star lifestyle wasn’t fulfilling, and his Bipolar Disorder was driving him to the brink. Here’s what he learned. — Lying on the ceramic floor in my drug dealer’s...
View ArticleI Wish I Would’ve Gone To Rehab
The sooner you accept your situation and allow yourself to heal, the better off you’ll be. — A cold silence filled in the room. I sat there, fiddling with the torn fabric on the pocket of my shirt....
View ArticleWe Need More Gay Scenes Like This on TV
After taking Lucious’ relationship advice and having trouble with Michael, Ne-Yo helps Jamal feel confident in his own decisions. Empire, one of the most high-profile shows in prime time, also has some...
View ArticleThe ‘Single Mother Dilemma’ and the Man Who’s All In
Not all men are afraid of the challenge of dating a single mother. The good ones are often all in! — This is in response to Sarah Fader’s essay “Do A Single Mother’s Children Make Her Less...
View ArticleThe Difference Between Supporting and Voting for a Politician and What it...
Embed from Getty Images I don’t think Trump is supported because of his politics. I think he is supported because of his rhetoric on culture. ____ A few days ago, a family member tried to justify to...
View ArticlePaternity Certainty and the Good Dad
Should paternity certainty be important to good men? — If you’ve fathered a child, are you automatically a dad? Can you be a father to a kid that you did not create? Can you be a dad to your brother’s...
View ArticleYes, ‘Boys Will Be Boys’ but Act On It, Don’t Run From It
Boys are boys and will always be boys. We can be angry about it. Or we can use that anger to fuel a redefinition of what it means to be a boy. — About a year ago I was telling my girlfriend at the...
View ArticleHungry Men, Income Inequality, and the Thousand Foot Sandwich—Is It Only One...
Embed from Getty Images By Mason Lynch Those people who deny the problem of wealth and income inequality seem unable to grasp the reality of what’s going on in our nation’s economy. I’ve offered many...
View ArticleI’m ‘Hot’, He’s Not And The Comments Hurt Us Both.
Note from Heather Gray: Last week, I wrote an advice post: She’s Hot. I’m Not and Tired of Hearing It. A man had written in asking for ways of responding to leering and sexist comments about his...
View ArticleThe Beginning
Embed from Getty Images — Driving with no destination felt free and comforting. Glaring into the distance, along familiar and not so familiar roads allowed me to play out scenes from my life. These...
View ArticleThe ‘Black Dog’: Men and Debilitating Depression
— “If my black dog returns… he seems quite away from me now – it is such a relief. All the colours come back into the picture.” –– Winston Churchill The “Black Dog” was what Winston Churchill referred...
View ArticleThe Feminist Misconception
Students—men and women—protest against rising violence against women in New Delhi (2012) Preconception. The world is sinking under the vast multitude of beliefs regarding the multi-layered world of...
View ArticleDonald J. Trump (DJT), Narcissitic Personality Disorder (NDT),...
Embed from Getty Images Anonymity requested by the author. I’m seeing a lot of people wondering why DJT is busy f*cking around with sports personalities and not focusing on (insert any actual problem...
View ArticleA Straight Ally
Embed from Getty Images — I’m a straight ally of LGBTQ people. I wasn’t always. I was brought up in a conservative social and religious environment. Homosexuality was a choice and was a sin. Was...
View ArticleHow to Know if the Woman You Love is Codependent
— Caretakers are often sensitive, compassionate, deep feelers, and problem solvers. They take care of stuff. They feel called to save the world. No problem is beyond them. Part of what makes healing...
View ArticleBecause THIS is America: #WhyIdidntreport
— On October 13, 2016, I went on a first date that changed my life forever. It was with a man I had met a month prior who seemed decent, normal, good. He didn’t seem like the kind of man that would...
View Article#whyididntreportit
— Because I was 5. Because I was in kindergarten. Because I was 6. Because I was in first grade. Because I was 7. Because I was in second grade. Because I was 8. Because I was in third grade. Because...
View ArticleThe Conundrums of Being an Anonymous Sperm Donor
— The question that is on my mind today is whether I have an obligation to come forward as a sperm donor, as part of the new norms for responsible men that are being written. Thirty years ago, the...
View ArticleLearning To Live with Fear and Failure
A decade ago, I raised the first round of seed capital for a startup. Having had a series of good luck in my early career and family life, I had come to the false conclusion that with enough effort and...
View ArticleI Want to Teach My Kids to Sing: I’m in Active Shooter Training
I am a school teacher * This morning I left home and, for the first time, I really thought about the fact that my life may end with a bullet. That’s rather blunt. And it may sound dramatic. Teachers...
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